Motivational Monday (Letting Go)

There comes a time in everyone’s life where you have to let go of the things that are hindering you from moving forward, and getting the best version of yourself. It can be a job, a relationship, relocating, etc. Today, I am going to be speaking to letting go off a relationship. It can be a letting go to a toxic relationship or letting go of a relationship that came at the wrong time.

Everyone is in different parts in their lives. Some can be in the stage where they are getting married or starting their family. While others are in the stages of developing their careers. I want to make myself very clear here. Just because you are not getting married or starting your own family does not mean you have failed at life. That just means that God has different plans for you at the moment. There is nothing wrong with being single and focusing on yourself!

Society has condition us into believing that we can only be defined by the relationships that we are in or if you do not do certain things by a certain time (get married or have kids), than you will never have those things. I’m here to say, I completely disagree with that! Getting married or having babies happens at different times for different people. Do not, I repeat DO NOT stay in a bad relationship because, you feel that you won’t get married by a certain age. DO NOT stay in a relationship with someone when you know you’re not ready to be in one. It will only damage that person for the next individual.

Being honest with yourself and the person you’re involved with can save both of you a heart ache. I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I dated a guy (I am now single) and everything was great. We made our future plans with one another and we discussed getting married in about two years from now. I thought this would be the last relationship I would be in (I know, crazy right). I honestly felt in my heart that God brought us back together and that things would work out between us this time. Lesson of today is, what you have planned may not be what God has planned for your life.  

Our love story quickly came to an end six months later (I know you may be thinking. Six months, is she crazy? You guys were talking about marriage. He was the first guy I ever loved and we dated in the past. We only ended things because I went to college and I wanted to explore among other things). Anyways, he decided he wanted to be honest with me. He confessed that he was not ready for a relationship and that he needed to focus on himself. You can imagine my disappointment and hurt right.

I became so filled with anger and I have my moments still to this day. I had a very long talk with my father and God opened my eyes, and made me realize that I was also not ready to be in an committed relationship. I have become so consumed with finding the right guy and believing that we were made for one another (that can be the case, but not at this time in my life) that I stopped listening to what God was telling me all along.

The hardest thing for anyone to do is to be honest with themselves and the person they are involved with. I am very grateful that he was honest with me, because it allowed me to be honest with myself. I am at the point in my life where I need to focus solely on myself. It sucks at times because we are great together, but it’s not the right time for us to be in a relationship. So for me, I am letting go of that relationship and moving forward.

It does not always have to be a bad relationship for you to let go. Sometimes it’s not the right time and instead of you staying in that relationship, it’s best to let it go.

So whatever you need to let go, let it go today! Start fresh and move forward.

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12 thoughts on “Motivational Monday (Letting Go)

  1. faith says:

    Girl you just do you! I hate how society pounds the idea in our heads that we can’t be happy alone. I am not married, but while I was single I had a lot of time to figure out who I was and where I was going in life. 🙂


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  2. Keeley says:

    Love this! Absolutely agree! It was only when I focuses on myself and decided to get out of the dating game that my Mr Right came along. We focus far too much on finding ourselves through someone else. When we do it for ourselves, everything falls into place.

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