Cheers to the Flipping Weekend

I borrowed and switched around the phrase from Rhianna lol. “Cheers to the freaking weekend I’ll drink to that”, don’t know if you’re familiar with the song,  but click this to check it out 🙂 

Anyways, I HOPE YOU GUYS ARE READY FOR THE WEEKEND!!!!! I’m off this weekend, so I am very excited for what it has in stored for me.

I plan on hanging out with a few friends and finishing up my second book! Yes, you heard me correctly, my second book is almost finished! You can check out my first book here.

Also, I’ll post details soon about the new one. 

If you had a not so pleasant week, I want you to take this weekend to reboot and relax.

Don’t allow what occurred this week to taint your weekend.

I want you to repeat after me:

I am alive.

I am blessed.

I have food on the table.

I have a roof over my head.

I have a lot to be thankful for.

I am not going to allow this work week or life week to mess with my weekend.

I am going to relax.

I am going to try something new.

I am going to eat right.

I am going to visit my family and friends.

If you say that about 2 times, I promise your mind will shift and you will get excited about the weekend!

I already told you what my plans were for the weekend, let me know what fun adventurous things you have planed!

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Mindset Shift

In the words of Eric Thomas, “I’ve been trying to tell y’all, its not your circumstances or situation, that determines if you’re going to be successful or not. I’ve been telling you it’s your mindset! It’s the way you see it. It’s the way you think it right!”

Having a defeated mindset will put in a place where success is not attainable.

When you are consumed with negative thoughts and words like “I can’t and I don’t know if I can”, will automatically send your brain a signal to not try.

When you have a conquering mindset filled with positive thoughts, your brain will switch to a “I can and I will” mindset

We all have ups and downs. We all go through a thing I call life. However, it is about how we recover from what has happened. It is about not giving up on your dreams, your goals, and most importantly yourself!

My favorite thing to quote is “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade”. Meaning, no matter what life throws at you, NEVER GIVE UP.

Never give up on that boutique store, despite your knowledge on how to operate a business.

Never give up on that book you’re writing, despite having a publishing company.

Never give up on your weight loss goals, despite how many chips you eat.

Never give up making YOUR dreams a reality, because the moment you do, will be the moment you stopped living (not physically either).

Having a made up mind will get you through the hard time you face on a day to day basics. Having a made up mind will push you when you have nothing else left in you.

I challenge you today to change or adjust your mindset!

I promise, it will change ya life 🙂

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I Love ME!

I LOVE ME.

Growing up I had a hard time loving myself.

I always looked to others for validation. I compared myself to others (friends, family members, and people on television). I blamed God for making me look a certain way and I did not understand the beauty in my own uniqueness.

God crafted each and everyone of us differently! He made some people small and others more curvy. He made some people black and others white. Everyone and I do mean everyone is beautifully created.

It took for me to embrace who God created me to be, the woman that I am becoming, and the woman I am today, to truly love myself. I no longer need people to tell me that I am beautiful, because I know I am. I no longer need someone to tell me that I have nice hair or a nice figure, because I have embraced what God has blessed me with. 

I am going to share with you 5 (a bonus tip, so 6)  ways to love yourself. If you do these things daily, you will start to see how YOU view yourself change.

1. Do your hair.

If you are natural or not natural. Doing something to your hair will help you look at yourself differently. It is something about having a cute hair style that gives yourself a boost of confidence. Think about it. When you do your hair, now you want to find a cute outfit to put on, and then you put on your lip gloss, and then you find yourself checking in the mirror and loving how you look.

2. Workout and EAT RIGHT.

I will be the first to admit that I hate working out and eating healthy! I love eating my potato chips and chocolate. I don’t like to sweat and I don’t like running. However, when I workout and eat right I feel 1,000 times better! I no longer feel sluggish and depressed because I can no longer fit in my favorite jeans. Also, when you start to notice that you lost 5 pounds, you start to feel very good about yourself. It will lead you to wanting to lose more weight and before you know it, you are looking drop dead gorgeous in that dress!

3. Change your mindset.

This is one of the hardest things you will have to do. Shifting your mindset from negative thoughts to positive thoughts about yourself is a challenge. However, with every challenge there is a reward, and a obstacle you will and can overcome. I challenge you today to start saying what you love about yourself (I love my hair. I love my lips. I love my hands. I love my booty. I love my curves. etc.) and watch how you fall in love with yourself. You will notice how you start to feel mentally. Also, stop comparing yourself to other people, especially to the people on television.

4. Become your own best friend.

Often times we feel unloved and not appreciated when our friends or family members are not giving us the attention that feel we deserve. We look for our friends, family, and spouse to give us compliments, when we really should be looking to ourselves for those compliments. If you start to date yourself, compliment yourself, take care of yourself, you will see how the way you view yourself changes. I no longer need my best friend or man (when I had one) tell me that I look pretty or that my hair was very nice today, because I told myself that.

5. Embrace all of your “flaws”

No one was made perfect! Beyonce is not even perfect. We all have things about ourselves that we feel like we should improve. However, instead of trying to fix your “flaws”. You should start embracing them. So what if you have a slighter bigger head than someone else, that is the way God made you, and you are stunning that way. Let me ask you this, if there was no one around to tell you that you were not the ideal of beauty, would you believe that you were anything other than beautiful? You only believe something is wrong with you because, someone has told you that (society).

***6. Build yourself up

Stop looking for people to validate you. Stop looking for people to love you in a way that you can only love yourself. Stop looking to others to fill a void that God can only fill. It is not a easy thing to do. It is never easy to do. It is never easy to stand up and say you don’t give too flipping rocks about what anyone else thinks. However, it is a must. You have to learn to build yourself up, because if you don’t, people will continue to tear you down. Stop caring what others thinks! The only opinion that matters is yours.

As you all know by now, I am 23 years old, and I love myself! Learning how to love myself has helped in many areas of my life. I no longer deal with BS from people. I no longer care what people have to say about me, because truth is, my opinion only matters. I had to learn that people will always talk about you. Whether you are doing bad, good, or alright.

Learning to love yourself gives you the power to walk in confidence and not care what society says about you. 

If you do those 6 things daily, I promise you that the way you view yourself will change.

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