The Season of Adjustment

The new word of the month of September is “adjustment”.

Our children are preparing to head back to school, if they haven’t done so already. We’re still in the middle of a pandemic, with no cure near.

Parents must return to work or walk away from their jobs to stay at home with their children. Money is tight and kids are frustrated.

Parents are now faced with decisions that causes a ton of anxiety and they don’t want to be judged for their decision by their peers.

For me, we relocated to Illinois and don’t have anyone around us but an extremely small amount of family. I also did this in the middle of building my business, so now I have to start over.

Chloè isn’t at the age where she needs to go to a school setting, but now I have to figure out how to build a business from scratch in a new area, while raising a toddler in a new area.

Talk about adjustment…

We are all facing an extreme amount of uncertainty. We don’t know what tomorrow will bring. We don’t know if a cure is soon to be discovered. We don’t know if our children will be forced back to school. We don’t know if our children will get COVID and bring it back home. We don’t know if they do get it, can they or we beat the virus.

As if we don’t have enough to worry about, we have the president election fastly approaching.

There are a million questions and little answers.

Despite all the negativity surrounding this current situation, I want you to understand this is a season of adjustment. We must all adjust and understand that we can and will get through this!

1. God is ALWAYS working! Whether we acknowledge it or not, he’s working and protecting us.

2. This is a time we can get to re know ourselves and our children. We can figure out what we like vs don’t. We can re learn our spouse. We can figure out how to communicate with our children and learn who they really are.

3. This is a season where we can learn how to save our money and invest it wisely. I did mention money was tight for most families. Now is the time to come up with a budgeting plan.

4. This is a season where we can learn a new skill. You didn’t have the time before, now you do. Adjust accordingly.

Adjusting in this time doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It can be a beautiful thing. It’s teaching us that we can get through whatever life throws our way. It’s showing us exactly how strong we are. It’s showing how beautifully flawed this world is and that’s okay because we get to learn about us and the people in it.

I’ll leave you with this. Don’t allow negativity to consume you in this season. Instead, adjust and keep living.

Until next time,

XoXo

You’re In Control

Happy Friday!!

I want to leave you with a short sweet message going into the weekend. I want you to understand that “You’re In Control Of How Your Life Is”.

Believe it or not, we’re all energy beings. Whether or not we’re attracting positive energy or negative energy is solely up to us. Yes, life is going to happen. Yes, somethings are outside of our control. However, your reaction isn’t. You can CHOOSE to give that event positive or negative energy.

For an example, if someone cuts you off while driving. You can CHOOSE to be upset for the remainder of the day or you can CHOOSE to let it go. Another example. The father of your child doesn’t come pick up your kid yet again. You’re extremely upset because your child is now upset, and no mother wants to witness that. Please know, you have every right to feel how you want. However, you should NEVER allow those emotions to consume you.

Let me paint an event clearer picture. The father of your child doesn’t come kid y’all kid. You become angry because of the inconsistency in your child life. You send several heated texts or calls. You’re yelling, you’re hurt. Your child now feeds off this energy, so now they are misbehaving. Now, you’re even more frustrated and have an extreme headache.

Get where I’m going with this!?

I’m not saying you don’t have a right to be upset. However, don’t let your emotions consume you. Deal with the disappointment and refocus your energy onto something more positive. For example, you can take your child somewhere special to get their mind off their father not showing up and have an open conversation with them about it.

We have more power then we realize! We have more control over our life, our thoughts, our actions then we realize. We must be intentional with EVERYTHING in our life, especially with our thoughts. You don’t have to remain angry that you’re a single mother. You don’t have to remain angry that you were let go from your job. You don’t have to remain angry that you had to start over. Those are all moments to take back control of your life and to change the narrative.

I’ll leave you with this exercise for the weekend. Take one thing you’d like to shift in your life. I want you to write down 5 affirmations. For an example, if it’s be more positive, write 5 affirmations about being positive. I want you to meditate on that for the weekend for at least 5-10 minutes. When you complete that, write down how you feel and then repeat the activity.

If you decide to do this small activity, let me know how it went. You can comment under this blog post or send me an email. I would love to hear how it went!

Until next time,

XOXO

Be Intentional

Good morning, guys!

Happy Monday 🙂

Today, I’d like to chat with you about being intentional. For me, this concept was a hard one to grasp, but I feel like I finally understand what it means. Therefore, I’d like to share with you my definition of what it means to “be intentional”.

Being intentional is being very clear about what you want. You have to sit down in your alone time and write down what you want out of life. Once you get a very clear picture, then you must take proactive steps to obtain what you want. Believe it or not, the brain is a muscle. When you’re very clear about what you want, your brain, God, and the universe will do what they have to to bring forth your vision.

When your in this state, nothing happens on accident. Everything that’s happening or will happen is intentional and has a purpose. In fact, when your in alignment with living an intentional life, you’ll notice major shifts in your life.

Now, I know it’s extremely hard at times to have this mindset, especially when life is constantly throwing you all these curve balls. However, it’s imperative that you switch your mindset. It’s imperative that you work on your mindset daily. When you’re intentional about every thought, things will flow differently.

Let me explain what I mean in more detail. To be intentional about your thoughts, you have to take control of the negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. For example, when you have a thought that’s negative, you have to replace it with a positive thought. “I’m stupid” vs “I have more than enough smarts to complete this task”. See the difference!? When you continuously do this, you will see a shift in how you think.

Being intentional about how you think or the decisions you make, you will notice how less stressful your life is.

I learned that you must take control of your life or life will take control of you!

Until next time,

XOXO

I’m Back, For Good.

Good morning!

I know it has been awhile since I wrote anything. It has been a crazy few months, especially with COVID-19 happening. I’m going to catch you up on one major decision I’ve made recently.

I quit my job in March 2020 to pursue teaching full time. If you’ve been following my journey, then you know I felt that I was called to teach. So, I took a step out on faith and quit my job. However, I didn’t know that COVID-19 was going to happen and close all the schools down for the remainder of the year. As a single mother with a child to take care of and bills to pay, I panicked. I emailed one of my managers and asked if I could veto my two week notice. He replied, “we appreciate the work you’ve done these last three years, but your position has been back filled already”.

I’m not going to lie, I was extremely upset. Given what’s going on in the world and knowing my situation, I thought he would’ve given me my job back. I know if I were in his position I would’ve given me my job back. I sat and read the email over and over and over again. I was feeling overwhelmed and angry. Here it is I was going to pursue a dream of mine and this pandemic happened. WHEN CAN I CATCH A BREAK! I thought to myself daily.

As you know, I have a business called Embrace Thee Journey. I prayed and asked for direction and God delivered. I have been working for myself full time for almost 5 months now. And I must say I love it! I love the freedom I have. I love the people I’m helping. I love the growth I’m seeing within myself. I’ve also realized I love coaching people to a better way of living.

I will have many more post about entrepreneurship and how to thrive in this industry, as I continue down this path. But, one thing I have learned is you must tune out the noise! You must get very clear about what you want and your why, and go after it. There will be many people who don’t understand why you’re pursuing this path, especially a single mother. I’m here to say, forget what the haters say! Strap your boots on and go for it!!!

Until next time,

XOXO

Time Management & Mom Life

If I am being completely honest, I suck at time management. I have brought so many planners to not use them at all. I even attempted to download a calendar on my phone, but it was still a fail.

If you throw in one extremely active toddler that has a mind of their own, well, terrible fail.

This year, I have made it my top priority to manage my time a lot better, and I feel like I have gotten a little bit better. With the COVID-19 pandemic happening, Chlo will no longer be attending daycare, so we’re back to square one.

On a side note, she only attended daycare for legit three days before the crisis happened. 

Anywho, my daughter will always be my top priority, no matter what I am doing in life. However, I am finding that with me building a business and trying to stay sane, I am missing important moments with her.

Chlo, like any child, wants all of their parent’s attention. However, sometimes that’s just not possible. In my case, I noticed that sometimes I am not 100% present with her. For example, when she’s coloring in her book. I’m physically in her room with her and watching her from the side of my eye, but I am mentally creating content for my IG page or creating a promotion to attract more people. Coloring may be simple, but it is a time to bond with her.

My child will only remain little for so long. Yes, I am building a company that will help her in the long haul. However, she is just as important, if not more important than my company. I decided to become more proactive about managing my time and planning my days, so I can enjoy those simple moments with my kid.

What about you!?

How are your time management skills and being a mother?

Let me know!

14 Day Fitness Challenge

If you’re not following me on IG, I highly recommend that you do so. 

I launched my very own fitness challenge on Saturday, May 2, 2020. In addition to the challenge, I created exercises that would help to strengthen your core, legs, booty, and calves. Along with that, I highlighted three videos I wanted to workout to. As I am a Strong by Nation instructor and personal trainer, one of the videos is a Strong 20-minute video. The other two videos are by my favorite fit mom Kieara LaShae.

Lastly, for this challenge, I will be selecting two people with the best results. They have the opportunity to win a cash prize or a gift card from me. So, if you would like to enter the contest, you have until Tuesday, May 5, 2020 to send your before pictures to embracetheejourney@gmail.com. Be sure to follow my fitness page on IG @Fitness_with_Chels_And_Chlo and #EmbraceTheeJourney. 

Just an FYI, I go live Monday-Friday at 8 a.m to workout as well. This way, I am physically doing the challenge with you. In addition to that, I am sharing what I am eating throughout the day and some fun facts about nutrition.

So, I hope you join my challenge!

Check out my fitness calendar below to stay on schedule, just in case you cannot join me live 🙂

May 2020 Fitness Challenge

Until next time,

XoXoXo

Thank Me Later.

Over the year’s I have developed a passion for reading. Last year, when I was in the grocery store, I stumbled across a book called “Girl, Stop Apologizing” by Rachel Hollis. From the moment I started reading her book, I fell in love with what she was saying. I enjoyed how much she broke everything down, that I started following her on IG and subscribed to her podcast. Crazy, I know!

With the COVID-19 pandemic going on, I finally found time to continue reading the book. If you follow any of my social media pages, you know I am working extremely hard on my mental, spiritual, and physical health. It has actually become a top priority for me. While reading, there was something that stuck out to me, and I’d like to share it with you today.

“Be the kind of woman you want to be. Be the kind of woman who is proud to be herself. Be the kind of woman who has so much love inside her that she won’t be tempted to change herself in order to get love from others. Be the kind of woman who focuses more on being intrested than on other people thinking she’s intresting. Be the kind of woman who laughs loudly and often. Be the kind of woman who is generous, no matter how much money is in your bank account; you have a wealth of resources to offer others. Be the kind of woman who spends a lifetime learing, because knowldge is power and those who think they know it all are often the dumbest among us. Be the kind of woman both your eleven-year-old self and your ninety-nine-year old self would be proud of. Be the kind of woman who shows up for her life. Be the kind of woman who understands that she was made for more. Be the kind of woman who believes that she is capable of doing amazing things in this world. Be the kind of woman whose own dreams make her nervous, and then go ahead and do them anyway. Be the kind of woman who never asks permission to be herself” (pg. 94, 2019).

When I read those words, I immediately had tears in my eyes. I aspire to be a woman who lives life on her terms and to the fullest. I aspire to be a woman who inspires their daughter to be uniquely them. I aspire to encourage other women that they can indeed make their dreams a reality if they have faith and work hard enough. You see, I am setting out to be the best version of Chelsea, and it starts with a made-up mind.

So, I hope you carefully read Rachel Hollis’s words. I hope you meditate on what she wrote and then apply it to your life. We only get one chance at this thing. So, why not live your best damn life?

As always, until next time.

XOXOXO

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You Matter, Too.

I graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Communication in 2015. Recently, I graduated with a Master of Science degree in Marketing in January of this year. In between receiving both degrees, I explored the possibility of becoming a teacher. To my surprise, I actually enjoy teaching. I had a full-time teaching job at one point, but due to certain circumstances, I had to walk away from it.

Fast forward to the summer Chlo was conceived, I was a substitute teacher part-time. I had plenty of opportunities that had become available during that time. However, I wasn’t ready to step into that field yet. When I found out I was pregnant with Chlo, I started panicking and took the first job that was offered to me. I started out with Morley as an Advisor in 2017 and later was offered the Social Community Manager position in 2019. The last position I had with them allowed me to work from home and it provided me the ability to be at home with my kid fulltime.

I love every moment I’m with my kid. However, I knew this current position wasn’t something I wanted to do forever. I allowed myself to stay stuck in a situation because I told myself that “good mothers” stayed home with their child. I allowed the negativity to consume my mind to the point where I was stressed out every day, I was yelling way more than usual, my performance was slacking tremendously at work, and I was just in a funk. I completed my graduate program in January and I was still fueling my mind with negative talk. I started praying and nothing changed. One day, one of my good friends gave me a pep talk. This wasn’t her typically things will work itself out pep talks either. This pep talk came straight from God, but he used her to deliver the message to me. She told me that every mother is different and Chlo doesn’t need a perfect mom, she just needs me. She proceeded to tell me that working and following my dreams doesn’t make me a “bad mom”. However, it made me a mom that Chlo loves and would grow to appreciate.

While I am very thankful for the experience I had at my previous job, it was time to go. I know for a fact that teaching and writing is my calling, among other things. I knew for a fact that I couldn’t allow the fear of not being a “good mother” stop me from pursuing my dreams. Chlo will love me regardless, as I take very good care of her and I love her unconditionally. I make it my goal to spend as much time with my kid as I can, despite what’s going on with me. Pursuing a job outside of the home doesn’t make me a “bad mom”. In fact, it allows us to spend some time apart, which is healthy.

Although, the schools are closed at this moment. I refuse to give up on my dreams of becoming a teacher and a writer fulltime. In fact, I’m working on a few projects as we speak. I decided to look at this time as a way for me to get my mind together. In addition to that, I get to spend more time with Chlo at home before she has to go to daycare on a daily basis.

I want each of my moms in the world to know that it doesn’t make you a “bad mom” for working outside of the home. It doesn’t make you a “bad mom” for wanting or having a life outside of your child. Before you and I became mothers, we were people who had our own life to live. It’s so easy to get swept up in being a mother! However, I am here to tell you not to forget about you. You deserve your dreams to become your reality too.

Until next time,

XoXoXo.

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Strong by Zumba

I became a Strong by Zumba instructor in September of last year. It was one of my biggest accomplishments in fitness because I legit had to work out for 8 hours! When I say I wanted to walk out every hour, but I didn’t.  I stuck out the entire 8 hours and I received my certification. However, that was the easy part. The challenging part is actually showing up for you all. Let’s be clear here. I love working out with you all, whether it’s in person or online. However, having an active toddler, building a business, working, and life in general, it all becomes a lot. I’d hate to not show up for you all 100%, so I make it my mission to either go big or don’t go at all.

I will admit that I have been slacking, but I have been doing my best to get back into it. With this pandemic, we’re currently having, I figured no time was better than to start things back up. If you’ve been following my journey, then you know that fitness and eating better has always been apart of my life. However, I decided to stop half-assing it and give it my all.

With the live videos, I do on Facebook Live, I workout with whoever tunes out to a 30 minute Strong by Zumba video. Classes can be 1 hour or 30 minutes. For the sake of the next two weeks, I’ll be doing 30-minute classes virtually. I play this video with one of the Strong by Zumba master trainers and workout with you guys online. Now, I will admit. The workouts can be intensive and you most definitely might want to quit. However, you can get through it!

I believe that with every challenge comes great reward. So, here is my official invitation to you to join me live on Facebook @ Chelsea Thomas or on our fitness page @Fitness_With_Chels_And_Chlo. I will go live around 11:45 a.m or 12 noon (really depends on Chlo mood).

For sneak peek purposes, I have included what you can expect to work out with me live! I hope to see you virtually 🙂

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Chill Day

Yesterday was a chill day for Chlo, and we decided to throw on some sweatpants and a sweatshirt. I didn’t want to put a ton of twist in her hair, because it was just one of those days. However, I wanted to do something simple and cute. We decided to do a bun and a twist in the back, along with adding an orange barrette.

We got her outfit from Marshalls, I believe. It was no more than $20.00. I’ll get better with telling you guys the exact stores we shop at and the price for things, I promise. Anyways, the hoop earrings, are mines of course. Chlo wanted to wear them, I just wanted to make sure her ears were still pierced.

So, here you have Chlo look for the day!

 

 

Let us know what you guys think.

 

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