Be Intentional

Good morning, guys!

Happy Monday 🙂

Today, I’d like to chat with you about being intentional. For me, this concept was a hard one to grasp, but I feel like I finally understand what it means. Therefore, I’d like to share with you my definition of what it means to “be intentional”.

Being intentional is being very clear about what you want. You have to sit down in your alone time and write down what you want out of life. Once you get a very clear picture, then you must take proactive steps to obtain what you want. Believe it or not, the brain is a muscle. When you’re very clear about what you want, your brain, God, and the universe will do what they have to to bring forth your vision.

When your in this state, nothing happens on accident. Everything that’s happening or will happen is intentional and has a purpose. In fact, when your in alignment with living an intentional life, you’ll notice major shifts in your life.

Now, I know it’s extremely hard at times to have this mindset, especially when life is constantly throwing you all these curve balls. However, it’s imperative that you switch your mindset. It’s imperative that you work on your mindset daily. When you’re intentional about every thought, things will flow differently.

Let me explain what I mean in more detail. To be intentional about your thoughts, you have to take control of the negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. For example, when you have a thought that’s negative, you have to replace it with a positive thought. “I’m stupid” vs “I have more than enough smarts to complete this task”. See the difference!? When you continuously do this, you will see a shift in how you think.

Being intentional about how you think or the decisions you make, you will notice how less stressful your life is.

I learned that you must take control of your life or life will take control of you!

Until next time,

XOXO

I’m Back, For Good.

Good morning!

I know it has been awhile since I wrote anything. It has been a crazy few months, especially with COVID-19 happening. I’m going to catch you up on one major decision I’ve made recently.

I quit my job in March 2020 to pursue teaching full time. If you’ve been following my journey, then you know I felt that I was called to teach. So, I took a step out on faith and quit my job. However, I didn’t know that COVID-19 was going to happen and close all the schools down for the remainder of the year. As a single mother with a child to take care of and bills to pay, I panicked. I emailed one of my managers and asked if I could veto my two week notice. He replied, “we appreciate the work you’ve done these last three years, but your position has been back filled already”.

I’m not going to lie, I was extremely upset. Given what’s going on in the world and knowing my situation, I thought he would’ve given me my job back. I know if I were in his position I would’ve given me my job back. I sat and read the email over and over and over again. I was feeling overwhelmed and angry. Here it is I was going to pursue a dream of mine and this pandemic happened. WHEN CAN I CATCH A BREAK! I thought to myself daily.

As you know, I have a business called Embrace Thee Journey. I prayed and asked for direction and God delivered. I have been working for myself full time for almost 5 months now. And I must say I love it! I love the freedom I have. I love the people I’m helping. I love the growth I’m seeing within myself. I’ve also realized I love coaching people to a better way of living.

I will have many more post about entrepreneurship and how to thrive in this industry, as I continue down this path. But, one thing I have learned is you must tune out the noise! You must get very clear about what you want and your why, and go after it. There will be many people who don’t understand why you’re pursuing this path, especially a single mother. I’m here to say, forget what the haters say! Strap your boots on and go for it!!!

Until next time,

XOXO

Time Management & Mom Life

If I am being completely honest, I suck at time management. I have brought so many planners to not use them at all. I even attempted to download a calendar on my phone, but it was still a fail.

If you throw in one extremely active toddler that has a mind of their own, well, terrible fail.

This year, I have made it my top priority to manage my time a lot better, and I feel like I have gotten a little bit better. With the COVID-19 pandemic happening, Chlo will no longer be attending daycare, so we’re back to square one.

On a side note, she only attended daycare for legit three days before the crisis happened. 

Anywho, my daughter will always be my top priority, no matter what I am doing in life. However, I am finding that with me building a business and trying to stay sane, I am missing important moments with her.

Chlo, like any child, wants all of their parent’s attention. However, sometimes that’s just not possible. In my case, I noticed that sometimes I am not 100% present with her. For example, when she’s coloring in her book. I’m physically in her room with her and watching her from the side of my eye, but I am mentally creating content for my IG page or creating a promotion to attract more people. Coloring may be simple, but it is a time to bond with her.

My child will only remain little for so long. Yes, I am building a company that will help her in the long haul. However, she is just as important, if not more important than my company. I decided to become more proactive about managing my time and planning my days, so I can enjoy those simple moments with my kid.

What about you!?

How are your time management skills and being a mother?

Let me know!

14 Day Fitness Challenge

If you’re not following me on IG, I highly recommend that you do so. 

I launched my very own fitness challenge on Saturday, May 2, 2020. In addition to the challenge, I created exercises that would help to strengthen your core, legs, booty, and calves. Along with that, I highlighted three videos I wanted to workout to. As I am a Strong by Nation instructor and personal trainer, one of the videos is a Strong 20-minute video. The other two videos are by my favorite fit mom Kieara LaShae.

Lastly, for this challenge, I will be selecting two people with the best results. They have the opportunity to win a cash prize or a gift card from me. So, if you would like to enter the contest, you have until Tuesday, May 5, 2020 to send your before pictures to embracetheejourney@gmail.com. Be sure to follow my fitness page on IG @Fitness_with_Chels_And_Chlo and #EmbraceTheeJourney. 

Just an FYI, I go live Monday-Friday at 8 a.m to workout as well. This way, I am physically doing the challenge with you. In addition to that, I am sharing what I am eating throughout the day and some fun facts about nutrition.

So, I hope you join my challenge!

Check out my fitness calendar below to stay on schedule, just in case you cannot join me live 🙂

May 2020 Fitness Challenge

Until next time,

XoXoXo

Thank Me Later.

Over the year’s I have developed a passion for reading. Last year, when I was in the grocery store, I stumbled across a book called “Girl, Stop Apologizing” by Rachel Hollis. From the moment I started reading her book, I fell in love with what she was saying. I enjoyed how much she broke everything down, that I started following her on IG and subscribed to her podcast. Crazy, I know!

With the COVID-19 pandemic going on, I finally found time to continue reading the book. If you follow any of my social media pages, you know I am working extremely hard on my mental, spiritual, and physical health. It has actually become a top priority for me. While reading, there was something that stuck out to me, and I’d like to share it with you today.

“Be the kind of woman you want to be. Be the kind of woman who is proud to be herself. Be the kind of woman who has so much love inside her that she won’t be tempted to change herself in order to get love from others. Be the kind of woman who focuses more on being intrested than on other people thinking she’s intresting. Be the kind of woman who laughs loudly and often. Be the kind of woman who is generous, no matter how much money is in your bank account; you have a wealth of resources to offer others. Be the kind of woman who spends a lifetime learing, because knowldge is power and those who think they know it all are often the dumbest among us. Be the kind of woman both your eleven-year-old self and your ninety-nine-year old self would be proud of. Be the kind of woman who shows up for her life. Be the kind of woman who understands that she was made for more. Be the kind of woman who believes that she is capable of doing amazing things in this world. Be the kind of woman whose own dreams make her nervous, and then go ahead and do them anyway. Be the kind of woman who never asks permission to be herself” (pg. 94, 2019).

When I read those words, I immediately had tears in my eyes. I aspire to be a woman who lives life on her terms and to the fullest. I aspire to be a woman who inspires their daughter to be uniquely them. I aspire to encourage other women that they can indeed make their dreams a reality if they have faith and work hard enough. You see, I am setting out to be the best version of Chelsea, and it starts with a made-up mind.

So, I hope you carefully read Rachel Hollis’s words. I hope you meditate on what she wrote and then apply it to your life. We only get one chance at this thing. So, why not live your best damn life?

As always, until next time.

XOXOXO

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You Matter, Too.

I graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Communication in 2015. Recently, I graduated with a Master of Science degree in Marketing in January of this year. In between receiving both degrees, I explored the possibility of becoming a teacher. To my surprise, I actually enjoy teaching. I had a full-time teaching job at one point, but due to certain circumstances, I had to walk away from it.

Fast forward to the summer Chlo was conceived, I was a substitute teacher part-time. I had plenty of opportunities that had become available during that time. However, I wasn’t ready to step into that field yet. When I found out I was pregnant with Chlo, I started panicking and took the first job that was offered to me. I started out with Morley as an Advisor in 2017 and later was offered the Social Community Manager position in 2019. The last position I had with them allowed me to work from home and it provided me the ability to be at home with my kid fulltime.

I love every moment I’m with my kid. However, I knew this current position wasn’t something I wanted to do forever. I allowed myself to stay stuck in a situation because I told myself that “good mothers” stayed home with their child. I allowed the negativity to consume my mind to the point where I was stressed out every day, I was yelling way more than usual, my performance was slacking tremendously at work, and I was just in a funk. I completed my graduate program in January and I was still fueling my mind with negative talk. I started praying and nothing changed. One day, one of my good friends gave me a pep talk. This wasn’t her typically things will work itself out pep talks either. This pep talk came straight from God, but he used her to deliver the message to me. She told me that every mother is different and Chlo doesn’t need a perfect mom, she just needs me. She proceeded to tell me that working and following my dreams doesn’t make me a “bad mom”. However, it made me a mom that Chlo loves and would grow to appreciate.

While I am very thankful for the experience I had at my previous job, it was time to go. I know for a fact that teaching and writing is my calling, among other things. I knew for a fact that I couldn’t allow the fear of not being a “good mother” stop me from pursuing my dreams. Chlo will love me regardless, as I take very good care of her and I love her unconditionally. I make it my goal to spend as much time with my kid as I can, despite what’s going on with me. Pursuing a job outside of the home doesn’t make me a “bad mom”. In fact, it allows us to spend some time apart, which is healthy.

Although, the schools are closed at this moment. I refuse to give up on my dreams of becoming a teacher and a writer fulltime. In fact, I’m working on a few projects as we speak. I decided to look at this time as a way for me to get my mind together. In addition to that, I get to spend more time with Chlo at home before she has to go to daycare on a daily basis.

I want each of my moms in the world to know that it doesn’t make you a “bad mom” for working outside of the home. It doesn’t make you a “bad mom” for wanting or having a life outside of your child. Before you and I became mothers, we were people who had our own life to live. It’s so easy to get swept up in being a mother! However, I am here to tell you not to forget about you. You deserve your dreams to become your reality too.

Until next time,

XoXoXo.

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Strong by Zumba

I became a Strong by Zumba instructor in September of last year. It was one of my biggest accomplishments in fitness because I legit had to work out for 8 hours! When I say I wanted to walk out every hour, but I didn’t.  I stuck out the entire 8 hours and I received my certification. However, that was the easy part. The challenging part is actually showing up for you all. Let’s be clear here. I love working out with you all, whether it’s in person or online. However, having an active toddler, building a business, working, and life in general, it all becomes a lot. I’d hate to not show up for you all 100%, so I make it my mission to either go big or don’t go at all.

I will admit that I have been slacking, but I have been doing my best to get back into it. With this pandemic, we’re currently having, I figured no time was better than to start things back up. If you’ve been following my journey, then you know that fitness and eating better has always been apart of my life. However, I decided to stop half-assing it and give it my all.

With the live videos, I do on Facebook Live, I workout with whoever tunes out to a 30 minute Strong by Zumba video. Classes can be 1 hour or 30 minutes. For the sake of the next two weeks, I’ll be doing 30-minute classes virtually. I play this video with one of the Strong by Zumba master trainers and workout with you guys online. Now, I will admit. The workouts can be intensive and you most definitely might want to quit. However, you can get through it!

I believe that with every challenge comes great reward. So, here is my official invitation to you to join me live on Facebook @ Chelsea Thomas or on our fitness page @Fitness_With_Chels_And_Chlo. I will go live around 11:45 a.m or 12 noon (really depends on Chlo mood).

For sneak peek purposes, I have included what you can expect to work out with me live! I hope to see you virtually 🙂

Watch Me

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Chill Day

Yesterday was a chill day for Chlo, and we decided to throw on some sweatpants and a sweatshirt. I didn’t want to put a ton of twist in her hair, because it was just one of those days. However, I wanted to do something simple and cute. We decided to do a bun and a twist in the back, along with adding an orange barrette.

We got her outfit from Marshalls, I believe. It was no more than $20.00. I’ll get better with telling you guys the exact stores we shop at and the price for things, I promise. Anyways, the hoop earrings, are mines of course. Chlo wanted to wear them, I just wanted to make sure her ears were still pierced.

So, here you have Chlo look for the day!

 

 

Let us know what you guys think.

 

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Working Mommy

I went back to work on Monday….and the rest is history.

I’m just kidding 🙂

I know I’m not the only mother who dread going back to work. It means less time with your baby and nobody wants to do that. Luckily for me, my job allowed me to work from home for a month. Can you say “BLESSED!” So, I get to enjoy my little pumpkin a little longer.

I foolishly thought working at home and taking care of my daughter would be a walk in the park. Boy was I wrong! My daughter is extremely colicky, but she’s also use to me dropping everything and anything when she cries. Well, Ms. Chloè had to learn a very tough lesson early on.

Monday was crazy! I work 3pm-12 midnight. When I logged into work as I normally do, she wasn’t having it. She wanted me to hold her, talk to her, look at her, bounce her, walk her around, etc. I could do none of those things, because I have a quota to meet at work. As my baby cried, I felt horrible! I mean who wants to hear their child cry, right?

I was trying to work and tend to her needs without falling behind at work. My anxiety was out the window! I started feeling extremely overwhelmed and doubted several times that I couldn’t do this. My mother had just gotten back from her trip, so I felt really bad that she had to step in to help me. She was going off of 4 days of no sleep! But, what are mothers for.

As the night concluded, I had to calm myself down. My daughter doesn’t know that mommy had to work. All she knew was, I want my mommy and she’s ignoring me. Going back to work is an adjustment for both my daughter and I. I’m learning to have somewhat of a schedule and she’s learning that mommy has to work to provide for her. Although, Monday was stressful, we made it through.

Nobody said this journey would be easy, but it’s so worth it!

Tell me about how you adjusted to going back to work and what challenges you faced.

Until next time xoxo

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It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

It has been 6 long and exciting weeks since I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl. Chloè was born on July 11, 2018; weighing 8 pounds and 6 ounces. Yeah, I definitely tore some, but it was so worth it! I was in labor for 7 LONG HOURS and I didn’t take any meds (I was determined not to).

As I’m sitting outside, I decided to reflect on what I’ve learned thus far. There is a huge difference between being pregnant and actually having your child. Let me explain what I mean. As I previously mentioned in my other posts, I am a single mother. When I was pregnant, I had accepted the fact that my child’s father wouldn’t be apart of our lives. I was able to get through my pregnancy in a healthy mindset because of my support system, and my ability to keep moving forward.

When I had Chloè, I’m not going to lie. I had hoped that her father would show up. However, he didn’t. I held things together in front of my family and friends, but truth is, I was devastated. I am very close with my father and I wanted nothing more for my child to have that same relationship. However, that’s not our reality.

The first two weeks from home was hell! It’s been only me for the last 25 years and I had no clue what to do with a baby. My child endured a lot her first week home, and I mean a lot! I cannot tell you how many times I called the doctor, went to see specialists, and even went to the emergency room. I felt like a horrible mother…person for what my baby was going through. I mean, you’re supposed to make things better, right?

I literally cried everyday! I cried because I felt she deserved a better mother. I cried because I wanted to sleep, but couldn’t. I cried because I knew this precious human being was looking up to me, and I had no freaking clue what to do. I cried just to cry because it was all overwhelming. I felt like I was on autopilot and my brain wasn’t really processing this life change.

One day, my mother came home early. She gave me a pep talk and reinsured me that I could do this. It was in that moment that I knew things would be okay.

As time went on, things did get better. I had to realize that I’m new to this just like Chloè. There is no handbook on how to be a parent…you do the best you know how. Listen, I’m not sharing this with you to have a pity party. Because, I am truly blessed. Yes, my journey may be challenging. However, God has me 100%.

I believe people put so much pressure on new mothers and mothers in general to be perfect. When that’s impossible! No one is perfect in fact. Being a parent…a single parent is hard work! There are no breaks. There is no one else, but you. I shared this with you because, I want you to know it’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel angry. However, don’t dwell there. I want you to pick yourself up and keep moving forward!

Your beautiful baby is looking to you for guidance and strength. You are strong and capable! Things will be challenging, but I believe they will get better.

Until next time xoxo

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