Working Mommy

I went back to work on Monday….and the rest is history.

I’m just kidding 🙂

I know I’m not the only mother who dread going back to work. It means less time with your baby and nobody wants to do that. Luckily for me, my job allowed me to work from home for a month. Can you say “BLESSED!” So, I get to enjoy my little pumpkin a little longer.

I foolishly thought working at home and taking care of my daughter would be a walk in the park. Boy was I wrong! My daughter is extremely colicky, but she’s also use to me dropping everything and anything when she cries. Well, Ms. Chloè had to learn a very tough lesson early on.

Monday was crazy! I work 3pm-12 midnight. When I logged into work as I normally do, she wasn’t having it. She wanted me to hold her, talk to her, look at her, bounce her, walk her around, etc. I could do none of those things, because I have a quota to meet at work. As my baby cried, I felt horrible! I mean who wants to hear their child cry, right?

I was trying to work and tend to her needs without falling behind at work. My anxiety was out the window! I started feeling extremely overwhelmed and doubted several times that I couldn’t do this. My mother had just gotten back from her trip, so I felt really bad that she had to step in to help me. She was going off of 4 days of no sleep! But, what are mothers for.

As the night concluded, I had to calm myself down. My daughter doesn’t know that mommy had to work. All she knew was, I want my mommy and she’s ignoring me. Going back to work is an adjustment for both my daughter and I. I’m learning to have somewhat of a schedule and she’s learning that mommy has to work to provide for her. Although, Monday was stressful, we made it through.

Nobody said this journey would be easy, but it’s so worth it!

Tell me about how you adjusted to going back to work and what challenges you faced.

Until next time xoxo

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It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

It has been 6 long and exciting weeks since I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl. Chloè was born on July 11, 2018; weighing 8 pounds and 6 ounces. Yeah, I definitely tore some, but it was so worth it! I was in labor for 7 LONG HOURS and I didn’t take any meds (I was determined not to).

As I’m sitting outside, I decided to reflect on what I’ve learned thus far. There is a huge difference between being pregnant and actually having your child. Let me explain what I mean. As I previously mentioned in my other posts, I am a single mother. When I was pregnant, I had accepted the fact that my child’s father wouldn’t be apart of our lives. I was able to get through my pregnancy in a healthy mindset because of my support system, and my ability to keep moving forward.

When I had Chloè, I’m not going to lie. I had hoped that her father would show up. However, he didn’t. I held things together in front of my family and friends, but truth is, I was devastated. I am very close with my father and I wanted nothing more for my child to have that same relationship. However, that’s not our reality.

The first two weeks from home was hell! It’s been only me for the last 25 years and I had no clue what to do with a baby. My child endured a lot her first week home, and I mean a lot! I cannot tell you how many times I called the doctor, went to see specialists, and even went to the emergency room. I felt like a horrible mother…person for what my baby was going through. I mean, you’re supposed to make things better, right?

I literally cried everyday! I cried because I felt she deserved a better mother. I cried because I wanted to sleep, but couldn’t. I cried because I knew this precious human being was looking up to me, and I had no freaking clue what to do. I cried just to cry because it was all overwhelming. I felt like I was on autopilot and my brain wasn’t really processing this life change.

One day, my mother came home early. She gave me a pep talk and reinsured me that I could do this. It was in that moment that I knew things would be okay.

As time went on, things did get better. I had to realize that I’m new to this just like Chloè. There is no handbook on how to be a parent…you do the best you know how. Listen, I’m not sharing this with you to have a pity party. Because, I am truly blessed. Yes, my journey may be challenging. However, God has me 100%.

I believe people put so much pressure on new mothers and mothers in general to be perfect. When that’s impossible! No one is perfect in fact. Being a parent…a single parent is hard work! There are no breaks. There is no one else, but you. I shared this with you because, I want you to know it’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel angry. However, don’t dwell there. I want you to pick yourself up and keep moving forward!

Your beautiful baby is looking to you for guidance and strength. You are strong and capable! Things will be challenging, but I believe they will get better.

Until next time xoxo

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35 Pregnancy Lessons

In honor of my 35th week in pregnancy, I thought I’d share 35 things I’ve learned thus far!

Check it out below:

  1. Don’t dwell on negativity
  2. Don’t compare your life to anyone else’s
  3. Understand your words have power
  4. Remain positive in all situations
  5. Appreciate your family
  6. Appreciate your friends
  7. Learn to be alone
  8. Develop a prayer habit
  9. Develop good eating habits
  10. Do what you say and say what you mean
  11. It’s okay to cry. However, don’t allow your pain to consume you
  12. Don’t count yourself out, but always count yourself in
  13. Understand you have nothing to prove to anyone, but God and yourself
  14. Date yourself
  15. Learn to appreciate yourself
  16. Build a healthy relationship with yourself
  17. Invest in yourself
  18. Build your dreams and not someone else’s
  19. Don’t apologize for being you
  20. It’s okay to let go of people you’ve outgrown
  21. You don’t have to tolerate BS from anyone
  22. Be confident in the decisions you make
  23. Understand life is full of ups and downs, but it’s your attitude that will make or break you
  24. Just because life didn’t go as planned, doesn’t mean your life won’t be better than planned
  25. You’re in control of your future and present
  26. Let go of any regrets
  27. Let go of past hurts
  28. Stop expecting people to be how you are
  29. Accept people for who they are
  30. When someone shows you them true selves, believe them
  31. Don’t accept anything less than what you deserve
  32. Never give up on love
  33. Travel often
  34. Laugh every chance you get
  35. Live life to the fullest everyday

There you have it! My list of things I’ve learned or came to accept thus far during my pregnancy journey.

Let me know what you have learned/came to accept thus far in your journey!

Until next time xoxo

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Live On Purpose

I listen to a lot of motivational speakers. I hear them saying to “live on purpose” and that you can have an abundant life now. I never understood what that meant, until recently. I mean, if you’re living…aren’t you living on purpose? AND don’t you have to wait until you’ve reached your goals or level of success in life, BEFORE you can have an abundant life? WRONG!

  • Abundance means, “the state or condition of having a copious quantity of something; plentifulness” (
  • To live on purpose means, “to set priorities that align with what’s most important and strive to achieve that daily. Also, a person who lives a balanced life and invest their energy/time into things that matter most” (

We often believe we have to wait until we’ve reached our ultimate goal in life before we can enjoy it. I know I’m guilty of thinking this way and I want to share something with you. When you deprive yourself of the now, you’re robbing yourself of life’s greatest gifts/moments. Yes, you have to be disciplined and focused to achieve your goals. However, you have to stop and enjoy the now.

You have to stop and enjoy the scenery.

You have to stop and be thankful for all that you have.

You have to stop and appreciate all that you’ve accomplished.

When we’re so focused on the future, we miss out on the present. The present is what help keep us grounded and prepares us for the future. In order to live on purpose, you have to plan for the future, learn from the past, and enjoy the present.

It’s in the moments that we allow ourselves to be appreciative of our current state, that we get launched into of future success. I am guilty of being ungrateful and constantly comparing myself to others. However, one day I stopped. I said enough was enough. Instead of me complaining about how I should be further in my life and trying to speed up my goals. I stopped and began to appreciate all that I have accomplished thus far. It’s in these moments, that I realize I have all I need to be happy and I’m so grateful for my life.

Living on purpose or an abundant life doesn’t mean you cannot plan or make goals. It means to enjoy your life now while planning for the future. Learn to appreciate your life and your journey. Because it’s all leading you to something bigger!

Don’t wait until you have “arrived” before you starting loving and appreciating your life. Do it now, and all the way until you hit every goal you have for yourself!

Until next time xoxo

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Love Yours

If you’re a fan of J. Cole, then you’ve heard him say a few times, “Love Yours”. I love those words because it reminds me to stop comparing myself and my journey to others and to love my life. Life is going to happen no matter what! The good, the bad, and the ugly will happen within your life, regardless of your current state. However, if we can learn to change our perception/attitude about the challenges we face, we can get through it.

Have you ever wondered how people who go through the toughest battles still manage to smile while going through it? I know I have. I am guilty of blaming God or others for the challenges I face in my life. When in fact, it’s those very challenges that helped mold me into the woman I am today and the woman I will be in the future.

I’ve taken on a new approach lately. Instead of me becoming angry when life happens, I embrace it. I love all parts of my life, including the not so great parts. Believe it or not, I’ve become stronger and more confident because of the bad. If my life was always good, I’m not sure I’d grow much.

Additionally, I’ve stopped comparing myself to others. I have NO clue what other people go through on the daily basis and if they do decide to share with me their journey, it’s still not my life. When we become so consumed with others and what their life looks like, we allow ourselves to become ungrateful of our life. I don’t care what ANYONE says, everyone goes though something! We ALL face challenges and battles. However, the people we admire are the ones who have changed their perception of their situation. Yes, they are facing something difficult. But, they still decided to have a positive mindset through it.

YOUR life and YOUR journey is so unique and it’s time to embrace that. You can have the life you crave if you learn to love yours!

Love all parts of your life! The good, the bad, and the ugly. I know I do.

Until next time xoxo

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Patience My Friend

I have absolutely no patience! Okay… I have a little, but not much. I’m not afraid to admit that I want things when I want it, and I get frustrated when things don’t go my way. YES I AM A BRAT! All jokes aside, I have been working a lot of my patience. I mean, I’ll have to have tons of patience with a baby, right?

As I’m eagerly awaiting my daughters arrival, I tell myself to be patient. I am going to have many lifetimes with her and I need enjoy this time to prepare for her arrival. I also need to enjoy this time to reflect and get myself together. My life will NEVER be the same once my daughter arrives. So, practicing patience is my bestie right now.

Here is a few techniques I do to help me practice patience.

  • Breathe: It may seem simple, but when you’re preparing for a child, things can get out of hand. Remembering to breathe is highly important.
  • Relax: When I am really excited about something, I tend to get anxious. Yes, it’s great to be excited about meeting my daughter. However, it’s not healthy for my body to release those hormones. It can be harmful to the baby as well. So, trying to relax is a great thing to do.
  • Make a list: I love to plan things! I am a tad bit of a control freak. So, this always puts me at ease (sometimes). In this situation, making a list of things that I have to do by the time she arrives, helps me be more patient. Lets be honest here, it’s going to take me sometime to get organized and it’s reassuring that I still have time to complete certain things.

Those are just some things I do to help me be more patient with waiting on my daughters arrival. Of course, this is an exciting time, but learning to be patient before will help you be more patient when you’re holding your baby.

Until next time xoxo

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I never understood the benefits of breastfeeding until I started taking classes and researching about it. There are sooo many benefits to breastfeeding, and I don’t understand why people wouldn’t want to at least try it.

Before we became a more technology/modern society, women used to breastfeed their children. There was no such thing called “formula”. In fact, formula has only been around since the late 1800s. I don’t know about you, but that’s not a long time. If people weren’t using formula until then…what were they using??? Their breast.

I strongly believe because we live in an over sexualized world now, people cannot fathom the idea of children getting their food from the same source men use for pleasure. However, I’m here to tell you that breast were not created for pleasure. They were created as a way to provide children with the nutrition they need.

I’m not writing this to convince anyone to throw away the formula and breastfeed. While it’s the best food for our babies, I think we should consider all the options available to us and make an informed decision. I have attached two articles to this post today. One of the articles outline the timeline of breastfeeding and the other list the importance of breastfeeding.

While I have lots to learn about breastfeeding, I am excited to share my journey with you! I have made a commitment to breastfeed for the first year and a half of my child’s life. Woah!! I know, but I believe with patience, faith, and determination, I will succeed!

Be sure to check out the links below!

Until next time, XOXO

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Move Baby Move

The first time I felt my daughter move was confusing to say the least. Let me explain why. I was told that you don’t typically feel your baby move until like 18-20 weeks and it would feel like butterflies. Now, I never really understood what a butterfly feeling would feel like, but I just went with it. I figured it would feel like I swallowed a butterfly or something and you’d feel them trying to escape. Silly…I know!

When I felt my daughter move, I Googled what that would feel like. To my surprise, a lot of women felt the way that I had. Sometimes it can be confusing because, it can be gas and not the baby actually moving. However, I was sure this wasn’t gas and it was her moving. The more I felt the movement, the more I became excited!

I am a weirdo when it comes to understanding how babies are actually produced/conceived. I look at it as we swallowed a human and now they are growing within us. It’s still kinda hard for me to fathom how a life within a life grows, and comes out into the world, to become old. It’s actually pretty remarkable! As my child becomes bigger and the more she moves, she brings so much joy to my heart!

When I’m having a bad day, it’s like she knows by her moving it will brighten my day. My daughter is EXTREMELY active, especially at night or when I listen to music. I guess it’s safe to assume she’ll be a night owl and a lover of music. However, her activity throughout the day or even at night makes me wonder what she’s doing in there. Is she stretching? Is she playing? Is she upset? Lots of questions cross my mind, but it still lightens my heart to feel her move.

I catch myself saying, “move baby move! Go baby go”. It’s a little song I made up. But, I want you to take time out of your day to just enjoy the little things your bundle of joy is doing. It’s within these moments that I understand how blessed I am. It’s in these moments I understand how amazing God is. We’re so busy with life and preparing for our babies, that we need to just embrace their kicks or punches. We need to take this time out to appreciate the things they do now, because it will prepare us for all the things they will accomplish within their lifetime.

Until next time xoxo

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Nobody Asked You!

I have always been protective of women who have conceived a child outside of marriage or who are single mothers, especially black women. Obviously, I am black and of course I’d be more protective, right? That’s not entirely true though, and I am going to explain why. We live in a world that is constantly putting so much more pressure on women of color and bashing them for doing the same thing other races do. Now, this post is not meant to play the race card. Although, race plays a huge factor in this world. I am writing this post for all the mothers out there who are single mothers or mothers in general.

When people see me and notice that I am pregnant, they automatically look to my left hand. When they notice I am not married, they give me this look as if they are disappointed or they feel bad for me. I typically roll my eyes and keep it moving. When I scroll through social media, I see a lot of posts bashing women, especially black women for having a child outside of marriage. Those post piss me off and sometimes I confront those people who made such ridiculous statements.

I am writing this post today to let those who feel their “opinions” on someone else’s life is valid, that NOBODY ASKED YOU! 

Obviously, having a healthy two parent household is ideal for any child. However, life doesn’t always work out that way. My journey has taught me that it is better to raise my daughter as a single parent, than to raise her up in an unhealthy environment.

People need to realize just because a woman is having a child, doesn’t mean her life holds less value. God already knew that persons path before they were born. He already knew this person was going to be a single parent. However, he loves them anyway. Women become single parents for multiple reasons and it’s not okay for people to put them down for that. Also, let’s be real here. If you’re sexual active, it’s only a matter of time before you are blessed with a bundle of joy.

I was always taught, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all”. I know, I cannot control what others do or say, but I can encourage another woman to stay strong. When you hear negative things about your life and your decisions, I’m here to tell you to ignore it. Your future is just as bright as anyone else’s. Your child doesn’t take from you, but they add so much more to your life. 

Remember, God doesn’t give you anything you cannot handle.

Keep pushing.

Keep living.

And tune out the negativity.

Until next time, Xoxo

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Crazy Pregnancy Things

My pregnancy journey has been a beautiful one. I’ve had moments where I started stressing out about being able to take care of my child as a single parent at 25, to stressing about if my child would find me funny. I am someone who over thinks and tries to plan everything, so this journey has been very interesting. No one could’ve every prepared me for this and no amount of stories could help me understand the changes that your body goes through. I’ve decided to share some of the things I’ve experienced while being being pregnant with you. So, make sure you check it out below.

  1. No one told me that my belly would prevent me from seeing my lady parts: Whenever I look down, all I see is my belly and there isn’t a way to move it out the way. I find it hilarious when I’m trying to figure out how to shave. It’s nearly impossible and I’m going to have to invest in getting waxed soon.
  2. My hormones have increased a ton: I’ve heard stories about people hormones decreasing and not wanting to think about sex. However, my hormones have been the opposite. I think about sex often, but have no desire to be touched. It helps that I am single and have no need to be involved with anyone. So, I just keep my mind busy.
  3. My back aches: I’ve always had horrible back problems and my pregnancy has made it worse! I find myself sleeping in strange positions to alleviate some of the pain.
  4. I was told I’d have strange cravings: I was told that I’d eat weird combinations of food. However, the only thing I want is beef. I eat so much beef, I think I’m going to turn into one if I don’t stop.
  5. I was told I’d eat more food: Truth is, I don’t. I only eat when I’m hungry and I never get full. It’s very strange. I still eat about 6 times a day, but I am never full. I thought I would eat everything and all day, but I don’t. I guess it’s a good thing because I won’t gain more weight than needed.

Those are just the top 5 things I’ve noticed during my pregnancy. It’s has been a beautiful experience and I’m enjoying my daughter kicks/punches. I find her to be extremely funny and I can only imagine what joy she will bring to my life when our eyes meet.

Until next time xoxo

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